It is widely accepted that birthing women enter a natural trance-like state which is natural hypnotic state. We know that in order for women to enjoy the benefits of this state (disassociation from time, pain, outside influences) her partner plays a key role in minimising distractions, managing medical staff and not engaging in too much questioning. But the role of the partner in supporting this natural hypnotic state goes much further.
As a clinical hypnotherapist I know the power of the trance and the capacity for it focus attention in the most amazing ways. My office for example is in a busy CBA location, yet once in a trance and preset to ignore external noises, those under hypnosis are uninterrupted by passing cars, building works, or loud voices from other offices. My clients have their attention focused and only need to listen to my voice, not that of the cleaner emptying nearby bins, or dishes being clashes in the kitchen.
The same applies to childbirth, the focus of attention should be directed towards a helpful, encouraging, peaceful source (dad/partner) rather than the kitchen staff delivering morning tea, the screeching woman next door, or the medical staff discussing potential complications. Naturally the attention will go to the partner, his calming words, his encouraging touch. So words of wisdom fellas… make sure your words are calming and your touch encouraging.
Women often recall the words of their supportive partner during birth and are oblivious to the constant ins and outs of medical staff. Yet the man will recall staff conversations, loud noises, temperature changes, alarming conversations and more. Your voice, your words, your presence is profound and influential – use it wisely.
As a clinical hypnotherapist, I am also known for ranting about the expertise of those who hypnotise. My general rule is if you are not qualified to do this without hypnosis, then you are not qualified to do it with hypnosis! Well let me tell you something fellas, you are qualified. The hypnosis takes care of itself, as a natural trance state of labouring women (JOB 1 covered) and you are the single most qualified person in that room to calm, nurture, protect and love your partner. You do it at home, you can do it here. Keep your words positive, your voice gentle, your presence close, and you will be the expert birthing partner for a woman in a natural trance!